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Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

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From a nationally respected educator, the author of "Punished by Rewards" and "The Schools Our Children Deserve," comes a provocative challenge to the conventional wisdom about raising children.
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
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Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need — and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working "with" children rather than doing things "to" them.

One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.

More than just another book about discipline, though, "Unconditional Parenting" addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting — including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
Alfie Kohn is the author of nine previous books that have helped shape the thinking of parents. He has also appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show and Today. He lives in Boston.
"Those seeking alternative methods of raising confident, well-loved children will warmly embrace Kohn's message." - Publishers Weekly "Alfie Kohn does it again: He takes a topic (parenting) that has been studied and written about for years and gives us a wise way of adjusting our lenses so that we really see it clearly. He doesn't give simple rules, he gives deep understanding and a core foundation for parents." - JoAnn Deak, Girls Will Be Girls"
Short Title
UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING
Pages
264
Publisher
Atria Books
Language
English
ISBN-10
0743487486
ISBN-13
9780743487481
Media
Book
Format
Paperback
DEWEY
649.1
Year
2005
Publication Date
2005-01-31
Imprint
Atria Books
Subtitle
Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
Place of Publication
New York
Country of Publication
United States
Author
Alfie Kohn
Residence
Belmont, MA, US
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